We live in a world where people are often pulled apart by difficult situations. When the going gets tough we all have a tendency to retreat towards what we know best. For some this means finding a safe place, for others it means mentally withdrawing and for others still it means taking a step back from those around us. The common denominator is that many of us have a tendency to separate ourselves from the people, places and things that seem to be causing the trouble in our lives.
Earlier this year I told a group of people that I expected them to run towards me and not away from me if I was ever the source of conflict in their lives. I figured if we were willing to allow conflict to bring us closer together we might actually have a chance to resolve it. I was reminded of this thought by someone very close to me this weekend and I can say with certainty that it is true. Value the people that are close to you and trust them to be allies whenever you need to cope with something difficult.
The same thinking applies to the conflict itself. Don’t run from it, get as close to it as you can and find a way to get closer to the people around you because of it. Trust me when I say that this is true and that even the most significant fear can bring you closer to someone than ever before. The trick is to let the fear in. Don’t try and fight it, let it in, make friends with it and let it mean something. If we could all let the fears, conflicts and disputes in then maybe we’d have a chance to deal with the major issues of our time.
Who knows? This is just me thinking out loud, but you never know, there could be something to it.